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Tuesday, February 11, 2014

The List

Okay so I am technically now two weeks behind in my blog posts which means I'll either write one or two more this week.  Anyhow....I was trying to think of what to share with you guys yesterday morning at 6:17am. But now with another winter storm on its way, I've had time to search my brain for ideas.  

Today I've chosen what has been a checklist for my journey to a godly relationship.  I guess you could call it my "husband list" or "the one list" or my "destiny list."

I think that last quote has a nice ring to it- my "destiny list".  So as many of you know or should know, I've spent the last year of my life working on a CD project titled, The Mixstory vol. 1 Tales of Love.  Through this project my perspective on relationships has led me to be a wiser and more mature individual.  And through it all, I've been single and loving it!

After my first failed relationship, it became my prayer that my husband would be the next guy I entered into a relationship with.  That continues to be the prayer of my heart today.  

So if you've ever been told or maybe just assumed you must go through five relationships before meeting "the one", recognize that's a lie.  See, not everyone is supposed to have residence in your life.  The Bible says, "Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life." (Proverbs 4:23 AMP)

So if a fella doesn't check off on my list chances are we won't even make it to the first date.

I read a book a few years ago which I loved by Sherri Lewis titled "The List."  I'd encourage you guys to check it out.  It's a Christian fiction novel.

Below you'll find my list!  And you won't find anything considerably ridiculous here.  Some folks think it's a bad idea to have a list but let me ask you this...Is it a bad idea to have standards? And is it a bad idea to have godly standards?  Essentially, that's what this represents-Lena's Standards for a Good Godly Man.  Do you have a list too and what are your thoughts on mine? And just so you'll know, this list isn't all inclusive, but it does encompass a lot of my heart's desires.

1. Lover and Friend of Jesus
2.  Confident
3.  Protector
4.  Financially secure (yes A-men!)
5.  Like minded visions in ministry
6.  Unified purposes, what we aspire to do must sync
7.  Humble
8.  Spiritually mature
9.  A clean cut cutie
10.  20s like me!

Okay, so the last two may be considered personal preference but hey one of my best friends told me this...if you marry someone you'd better like the face that comes with it, otherwise you've got to look at it for the rest of your life.  So I'd rather be single than feel like I've settled for a face I don't like. Lol (but I'm serious)

Please check out the video below from Heather Lindsey.  Interestingly, one of my guy friends shared it with me and I felt it was definitely on point and appropriate for today's blog!  Here's the link in case you are unable to access via mobile view:


p.s. If you don't completely understand my view on love and relationships, well I just can't wait for my husband to find me so that our love may be a testimony for you!


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    1. Hey there! Thanks sister for checking out the post!

  2. Hey Ms. Carlena! You're totally on the right track. I, too, have "My Husband List" and have maintained through years of dating & waiting now. It affirms that you are clear. Being clear is critically important when you're on the journey to become the wife of God's man for you. Definitely a great guide to declare your destiny vision. Surely, a Proverbs 31 woman makes a list. Further, it is perfectly okay to identify your physical preferences - and state them. We must be attracted to our soon-to-be beloved. You need to have an attraction to him and he to you. You're a cute girl! He needs to be cute, too! Hugs! xoxo

    1. Hi! Thanks so much for your comments! I hope you'll continue to check out my posts. God bless!

    2. I certainly will. In case you didn't know, this is Angie :-) (Radio One).


    3. Oh wow! Hi Ms. Angie!! Thanks so much! Miss you guys, I really am going to stop through some day. It may be into the spring or summer but I'm going to make that my mission. Love you lots!